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28 Feb 2009 07:59
For Ernie Els, last year’s Honda Classic was filled with significance. It wasn’t a major and didn’t come after some epic duel with Tiger Woods.
It lacked that dramatic moment on the 18th green where a putt would decide the tournament.
But for Els, few wins mattered more.
Prevailing at the Honda gave Els more than a $990 000 winner’s cheque and his first US PGA Tour victory since 2004. It provided the platform he’d long sought to finally reveal his family is one of many touched by autism, a brain disorder found in about one of every 150 children that hinders their ability to communicate and interact
Els’ son, Ben, is a healthy six-year-old—who just happens to be autistic.
So his dad’s bag bore an “Autism Speaks” logo that week, and days after winning here at Palm Beach Gardens, Els started speaking about it
“It was good timing,” Els said. “It also had gotten to the stage where you’ve either got to talk about what’s happened to Ben or you’re just not. He was so in the public eye, especially not just in the US, but also worldwide. When you travel with Ben, you can really start seeing there’s something going on. I didn’t want to feel like we’re hiding anything.”
If that ever was the case, it isn’t anymore.
Els—who’ll defend his title at the Honda Classic this coming week—and his family are now at the front of fundraising and awareness
Els’ wine label helped sponsor a golf outing that raised more than $300 000 last summer for autism research, and here on March 23 he will host a pro-am featuring Jack Nicklaus, Greg Norman, Justin Rose, Raymond Floyd, Ian Poulter, Luke Donald and Tim Clark—who ousted Woods from the Accenture Match Play Championship this week.
In the beginning, Els was hoping to lure 18 teams and wondered if he’d draw that many.
He wound up having to stop taking entries when the field got to 22 foursomes, even turning some pros down.
“We’ve got our foundation up and running now and we can really start getting involved with finding a cure,” Els said. “Basically, that’s what we want to do.”
Keeping Ben’s condition silent pained Els for years.
At times, he wasn’t the same Big Easy on the golf course, letting emotions get the better of him in certain situations, a far cry from his typical demeanor.
It was a strain at home, too, as it is for most families dealing with autism.
But Els counts himself lucky: His family is moving forward, not letting anger and frustration override everyday life.
“You can’t help but feel for this kid, Ben,” Els said. “He’s a healthy kid and everything about him is perfect. He’s just not going to be a, call it normal, kid one day. You’re not going to play the same sport and he’s not going to do the same things as you envisioned. That’s the hard part.”
In many ways, 2008 was a year of major changes for Els’ family.
After seeing one too many snowflakes in London, where the South African made his year-round base for some time, Els packed the family up and moved to South Florida, buying a home in Palm Beach County.
Offseason training there is easier, many of Els’ friends live in the area and there’s no shortage of places to play golf.
And of course, his son’s condition weighed heavily on the decision to move, with Els saying he finds US facilities involved in autism research “so far more advanced in treating the condition or finding a
cure for the condition”.
That helped make the decision to uproot the family seem rather easy.
“I don’t want to say the biggest factor, but he was the most influential factor for us to come here,” Els said.
He also wanted to make sure his daughter Samantha, now nine, would be comfortable. She’s adjusted perfectly, Els said, after finding a football team, new friends, a good school and going horseback riding in her spare time.
Liezl Els, the player’s wife, also was fine with the move—and with her husband’s choice to reveal Ben’s story. She has immersed herself in research about autism, even more so than when Ben was first diagnosed.
“What we learned was startling,” she said in a public service announcement taped after the family revealed their situation.
Everywhere Els goes now, he hears questions about autism.
Fellow players often stop him and inquire how things are going. Some new fathers and fathers-to-be on the various worldwide tours have
sought Els’ counsel. NFL great Dan Marino, who has an autistic child and whose foundation has raised more than $20-million to fight the condition, invited Els to tour the research centre in Miami that bears his name.
Golf is still Els’ passion.
He’s just made room to add another one.
“Since I’ve come out with Ben’s condition, it’s been like wildfire, just with people coming out and talking about it,” Els said. “It’s amazing how big a problem it is. You don’t know it until you get involved.” - Sapa-AP
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