I recently discovered that my ex-boyfriend is gay. Which is not all that an unusual experience for a woman in her 30s in 2004. But I found it to be quite a shock. The thing is, being a lesbian myself, I had always imagined that I would be the one telling him something he didn’t know.

”It’s rather depressing when you belong to a minority group whose best mainstream exposure comes through a movie that depicts one of your kind as a serial killer. Somehow my gut tells me that Monster is going to tell people what they think they already know about lesbians,” writes Jane Rood.