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Kagure Mugo

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Kagure Mugo

Kagure Mugo is the intoxicatingly scary gatekeeper of HOLAAfrica, an online pan-African queer womanist community dealing with sexuality and all things woman. She is also a writer and freelance journalist who tackles sex, politics and other less interesting topics. During weekends she is a wine bar philosopher and polymath for no pay.

(John McCann/ M&G)
BODY LANGUAGE

Terms of social engagement

Someone’s watching you. Sometimes they’re invisible, other times not. What does their behaviour mean?

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(John McCann)
ANAL SEX

Find your P-spot, bro

There’s nothing unmasculine about a woman pleasuring a man in his anus

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Although anyone can fall victim to revenge porn (there have been cases of a dick pic or two roaming the Twitter streets), the overwhelming majority of victims are women.
CYBER BULLYING

Online nude, offline problem

Send the pic, but take measures to prevent more exposure than you wanted

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The constant need to see violence as happening purely across gender lines means there is an underdeveloped understanding of how it manifests within the LGBTQ spaces (John McCann)
BODY LANGUAGE

Myths shroud queer abuse

The idea that violence is heterosexually defined silences same-sex victims

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Certain sections of the penal code impose a maximum sentence of seven years imprisonment for consensual same-sex relations. (John McCann/M&G)
BISEXUAL

Ways to be a super queer ally

But in trying to be supportive, allies sometimes get it all wrong

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Porn that shows men and women as sexual collaborators rather than men as conquerors could do a great deal to change people’s perceptions about themselves and their sex lives (John McCann/M&G)
FEMINISM

Feminist porn answers a need

Women viewers are increasing and that could help to usher in the sex revolution we are hankering after

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Take it off: Women enjoy a raunchy evening with male strippers but many of those at the Magic Mike SA show dressed up in a way that suggests they need an excuse to have a girls’ night out.
BODY LANGUAGE

Women, it’s okay to lust like men

Half-naked, oiled-up, gyrating male strippers. We want this but think we can’t be seen to do so

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The reasons for the dozens of times I moaned and writhed in exaggerated ecstasy differed according to the partner
BODY LANGUAGE

Claiming your climax is hard

And the Oscar for best orgasm depicted in a biopic goes to … Kagure Mugo

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‘ … my palate became more discerning and eventually I could tell the difference between a good merlot and that swill that came out of a box
BODY LANGUAGE

Safely embrace  ‘hoe is life’

Queer people had only the heterosexual space for early lessons in sexual identity

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Pearl Bhengu assured grant beneficiaries that the current Sassa card will remain working until September 30.
BODY LANGUAGE

A silence that begins at home

We need to air our own complicity in muting the voices of sexual assault victims

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Kink can be filled with consent and this I learnt from black queer women
12 YEARS A SLAVE

Great kinky sex is just three magic words away: Conversation, consideration, consent

The kink world is one filled with safe words, sexual contracts and conscious conversations

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Often people shy away from the sex conversation to spare feelings, not wanting to cause trouble

Pillow talk the key to good sex

Most important is to remember that sex is a conversation and discussion is key

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Third wheel: You need self-awareness and good communication skills when you bring another person into a relationship.
POLYAMORY

The paradoxes of polyamory

Polygamy is for men seeking mini empires. Polyamory requires talk and thoughtfulness

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A Soweto youth holds a free condom he received at a HIV/Aids awareness event.
CONDOMS

Skin to skin: Stealthing is rape

Slipping a condom off during sex without partner’s consent is disrespectful and dangerous

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Let’s talk about it: Fifty Shades of Grey opened up the conversation on kink
BODY LANGUAGE

Sexual obesity in the tech age

Tinder is to sex what microwaves are to food prep: quick and easy, with a touch of danger

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