/ 21 January 2025

Judge Mbenenge’s counsel suggests complainant was a willing participant in texts of sexual nature

Selby Mbenenge
Eastern Cape judge president, Selby Mbenenge. (Judges Matter)

Counsel for Eastern Cape judge president Selby Mbenenge on Tuesday began cross-examining the colleague who has accused him of sexual harassment, and put it to her that she was dishonest in her complaint and in her testimony about her role in their relationship.

Muzi Sikhakhane SC told Andiswa Mengo that her responses to text messages from Mbenenge that she qualified as “disgusting” were not those of an honest complainant who was repulsed by his crude sexual advances.

Sikhakhane paused for some time on a laughing face emoji Mengo sent in response to a sexually solicitous message from Mbenenge. 

He said this contradicted her earlier testimony that she was repulsed by his request for oral sex, after asking her not only what she understood by the judge’s abbreviation of the slang word for the act but to describe what it entailed.

Sikhakhane said because Mengo had previously testified that when she had received the emoji from Mbenenge in an earlier exchange, she read it as meaning the subject they were discussing at that time was “a laughing matter”. 

Therefore, he said, she was fully aware of what the emoji conveyed and was entertaining Mbengenge’s advances by replying with the same in a sexually-charged exchange in which he had suggested fellatio. 

Mengo has, in seven days of testimony to a judicial conduct tribunal, been questioned at length by evidence leader Salome Scheepers about her responses to Mbenenge’s relentless pursuit, which he has said was “playful”, “flirtatious” and consensual.

She conceded that although she rebuffed him in no uncertain terms a number of times, at others she appeared to go along with the overt sexual tone of the texts. Mengo said she did so after realising that her rejection had no effect and had hoped that by responding as he plainly hoped, she would be left in peace.

The record shows this approach did not work because Mbenenge did not relent.

Much of the testimony has revolved around messages the judge president subsequently deleted. Mengo testified that he frequently sent pictures of his genitalia, as well as pornographic images, from which he invited her to choose her preferred position during intercourse.

She testified that in one instance, after months of such messages, she had forwarded one to a colleague in the division who immediately asked whether it came from Mbenenge because he had a reputation for such conduct.

She said she did so both for the sake of preserving evidence, because he had taken to deleting compromising messages, and to communicate to someone what she was enduring.

But Sikhakhane submitted that regretting that Mbenenge was deleting messages was not the behaviour of someone who did not wish to receive messages of this nature.

He also raised a text message Mengo sent to Mbenenge on Father’s Day in 2021. It was one of the few instances where Mengo had initiated a WhatsApp interaction with the judge president.

Asked by Scheepers why she had thought of texting Mbenenge early on a Sunday morning to wish him a happy Father’s Day, Mengo replied that he was “a father after all”. She had also sent wishes to other judges in the division.

But Sikhakhane noted that Mengo had addressed Mbenenge by his clan name, and said doing so amounted to employing a term of endearment.

“We have travelled a little distance with all disgusting things. You have not communicated your disgust.”

Mengo replied, speaking through an isiXhosa translator: “Yes.”

Sikhakhane continued: “In fact then for all the instances where you want the panel to understand were disgusting, you have actually responded with a response revealing the opposite.” 

He said she had omitted in her initial complaint to a judicial conduct committee of the Judicial Service Commission the large number of messages in which she did not disparage the respondent’s conduct, but reciprocated with unambiguous sexual innuendo.

“Madame, the theme I have been running with you is that you do not communicate in this theme what you were saying and communicating, particularly the disgusting parts and those where you expressed endearment, you don’t,” he said.

“It is because you do not want to show the endearment you were expressing.”

It has been expected that Sikhakhane would hone in on Mengo’s equivocation between rejection and indulgence, and would argue that she was encouraged to bring a complaint to persecute a senior member of the judiciary.

Mbenenge is the first judge to risk impeachment for sexual misconduct. But, as Sikhakhane stressed, this will turn on whether the interaction, which stretched from June to November 2021, was consensual.

The 37-year-old single mother has told the tribunal that, given the power discrepancy between her and the head of the division where she worked as a secretary, she felt vulnerable and demeaned.

When asked on Tuesday by her legal counsel, Nasreen Rajab-Budlender, what effect the experience has had on her, Mengo said she felt stripped of her dignity. 

She added: “Socially, I cannot even hold a relationship.”

Asked how the interaction with Mbenenge affected her work, Mengo said she was no longer as productive as before.

The cross-examination is to continue on Wednesday.

16 Replies to “Judge Mbenenge’s counsel suggests complainant was a willing participant in texts of sexual nature”

  1. My sister should have stopped him immediately but she was also provoking him by sending him messages,the two were inlove.

  2. Why did’ nt she block him and why reporting now. You don’t entertain such if you not interested. Her case should be dismissed.

  3. Where’s JP’s family? Does he have a wife and kids? If he does I’m embarrassed on their behalf

  4. I’m still confused as to why she deleted some text from her side, if she indeed is not hiding anything?Secondly, if you felt sexually harassed by someone, would you voluntarily initiate conversations on some days with that person, even wishing him a “happy father’s day”?.. It’s very clear that there is no sexual harassment case here. What needs to be determined is what is the policy of their work-place regarding romantic/ sexual relationships. Both of them will be guilty of violating such policy if it exists and the necessary steps should be taken based on that

  5. The complainant in my opinion definitely entertained the advances from the Judge, who is disgusting and shameful !

    • For a man of his stature, JP should have known better that flirting at a place of work would compromise him. It was infra dignitary of him to expose his private part! A whole JP! I feel strongly that the Judicial Conduct Tribunal will find him guilty of gross misconduct. As such impeachment is looming. The Judicial Services Commission should do justice here. Whether the complainant played along or not, is neither here nor there! A strong message should be sent out to all those in power not to usurp their power and exploit the vulnerable. Period!

  6. The fact is, sexual harassment took place and his conduct as a senior in the legal fraternity is absolutely inappropriate. There is a level of abuse of power and it is in these exact situations where sexual harassment is rife. The question of consent because she responded or appeared to participate doesn’t deter from the fact that he is innocent. Especially as there is other incidence of his conduct. It’s easy for bystanders to give opinions on how she should have handled it, but in fairness this was probably the only way and her best way to manage it, after all it’s not like she could run and tell any one at the judiciary. Now that it has come to light no one believes her because her conduct wasn’t a blatant NO, woman are often coerced out of fear to participate and this is often the same as many rape victims, woman are accused of encouraging or provoking the rapist because of what they wore. The fact that he cannot control his Sexual urges is the problem. Just because she didn’t say no or stop doesn’t mean he didn’t.

    • if she was sexual harassed, why did she omit her own sexual remarks from the affidavit? It’s clear that she is hiding something.

      Remember we are talking about a fully grown adult here. It’s not like we’re talking about a child

  7. In a world of power dynamics, whereas a junior staffer your job is at stake, she may have committed an honest mistake by playing into the judge’s advances; what compounds it is her relentless response and not taking a strong stance on the matter. She had liberty to block or write a formal email complaint of sexual abuse and harassment. The judge on the other hand must lead by example and show moral conduct. Office romance never ends in good terms. A crocodilian mindset requires a tigress prowess to tame the lamb

  8. Not reporting the matter immediately does not mean Andiswa was willing, she has got the evidence on her phone, let that be used to determine her willingless or unwillinglessm, this remind me of Zuma’s rape case, now a laughing emoji, to some, means she was a willing participant. Also, it must be borne in mind that Ms Mengo reported the matter, that the matter happened some years ago, and it is only now it is given an attention, just shows the compromised legal system we have. The financial minister was accused with the same offense, and like many he got away with the matter.

  9. It is easy to spell NO. Nothing more needed. Methinks it crazy to send sexy emojis to put someone off!

  10. Whether the responded is a JP or Registrar matter’s not. They are both adults and knew what they were doing. The complainant is making a mockery of the victims of sexual harassment at work place.

  11. Whether the exchanges were consensual or not, the judge’s conduct does not become that of a judicial officer. Did he use his official cellphone to exchange these sordid messages?

  12. If Ms Mengo felt offended by the judge’s advances, this exchange would not have lasted for even three days. That it lasted for so long shows that she was an accomplice and that she enjoyed flirting with the judge. This is a huge blow to women’s empowerment. She’s failed us as women. Serious training on these issues needs to happen.

    • This is not a matter of training. If you are indeed harassed you don’t need training to relate the story. She was definitely not harassed. She was a willing participant.